Don't Judge a Book by it's Cover

We have all heard it "Don't judge a book by it's cover". We even try hard not to right? I fail at this often. Then, sometimes the Lord steps in and says "Tammy..don't judge...Love". It's such a simple lesson...but I forget soooo often. The other day I was at Kid to Kid looking for a winter coat for Lilli. There was a woman there that looked a bit out of place. Kid to Kid is a re-use store. It is a store for penny pinching moms looking to make their pennies stretch. I was wearing jeans an old t-shirt, flip flops and had no makeup on and my hair in a quick pony tail. Looking in the same section as me was this woman. She was BEAUTIFUL by all worldly standards. She was tall, thin, long blond loose curls, perfect nails and makeup. She was wearing designer jeans, very very cool very very high heels, and she carried an awesome Coach bag (Coach is my dream, later I promise). Yep I found myself judging...what was she doing in this store...how dare she be a mom looking like that...seriously...you don't belong here Venus!!! Then we both went to check out at the same time. While I was negotiating a lower price the woman next to me, in her sweet soft gentle voice was begging...yep begging the clerk to hurry. She had a return and a purchase and the new clerk had made several mistakes. Still the lady didn't get angry just anxious...weird. OK. well then I got to thinking...maybe she can afford that beautiful Coach bag because she was careful with her money...I mean she was shopping at a re-use store for children...right? Then I overheard something that shocked me and made me sad. She was just begging the clerk to hurry because her husband was in the car and he had told her not to buy anything just do the return and hurry....oh no!!! here he comes! I look and sure enough a very angry looking husband pulls up in front of the store. Then the weirdest thing happened. The lady BOLTED! She left her return, her purchase...and her credit card! She just took off and jumped in that car as fast as those long legs could take her. The two clerks and I just stared at each other in total disbelief. I still am thinking of this lady days later. I shared what happened with my Hans-om later that night. I thanked him that he never scares me or makes me feel controlled. He trusts me with our finances. He trusts me to provide for our family the things we need. He makes me feel loved, adored and needed. I have never felt what that woman must have been feeling. Now I wonder even more about her...does she look that way because he demands it from her? Could be...wouldn't surprise me. While I try to look nice for my husband, especially on date night, he kisses my wrinkles and sunspots and even goes to the gym with me looking all fat and sloppy. I admit it...I judged her by her appearance. I HATE when people judge me by mine. I thought her life must be perfect and didn't like her for it. Man was I STUPID! God really showed me a lot that day and I just thought I would share a little with you.

What is going on today.

Well today is a little different. Monster #3 was tubing behind a boat yesterday and got whiplash! We spent a short three hours in the emergency room waiting for a CT scan. M3 is doing fine but she is in a lot of pain today...very very sore. So, she is down for the day. I did work out this morning...that was good...18 minutes on the bike, ab crunches, and arms. I am feeling a little like jell-o but I will add whip cream and all will be well.

Welcome to my world.

Welcome! So here I am on Blogger again. The whole point of this blog is that there is no point. This is just a way for me to be honest with myself and document the wonderful wife and mother I WANT TO BE! Sometimes I think that God must just sit in heaven and look at me and then plop his head in in hands and shake his head and laugh. I am such a mess most of the time. If good intentions were gold I would be SOOOO rich. I really do try...sometimes. Well anyway, welcome to my confusion, stay a while if you like.